There are many sections of society I don’t understand. A lot of these I went from being a part of to not understanding why I was doing it and just stopping all together. If I listed them all many of you would be shocked at the things I no longer just “get” like we are all supposed to. Some of the big ones though include:
- caring about celebrities like you know them
- caring what other people think of us/what we wear/how we act etc
- most music and TV
- gendered pronouns/gender separation for non-medical things
Caring about celebrities like you know them: this is a big one. I don’t understand how people know all the celebrity names, their birth dates, their family history. But they don’t know their neighbour. People care about the lives of celebrities like they are their best friend and don’t even know the person they call their best friend as well as they know all this trivia.
I truly don’t see the point.
Caring what other people think of us/what we wear/how we act etc: this is a huge one for me. My friend summarized it as “You don’t get the superficial media creating stuff….because it is all not real!!” I don’t get wearing a certain clothing brand, I don’t get wearing the shiniest thing. Hell, I don’t understand brushing your hair just to look nice for other people. My mother always says “you should look nice for yourself.” Why? what’s the point of it? In ancient times I get it, it was easier to keep lice in check with tamed hair. Now, now it is purely aesthetics, which I don’t understand. Why do so many people care what the others think? Why don’t they act the way they want? Why are some people labeled childish for liking colour and actually having a good time? I don’t understand it.
This last one is a large thing at pagan rituals I have found. Everyone has to have the nicest robe or the prettiest stole. Personally, when I do ritual work, I prefer to be as comfy as possible, so for me that means skirts. Since I’m normally an officiant, or if I am doing readings I will wear a bra but comfort is key otherwise how do you get the energy to flow if it is getting stuck in one part of your body that is itchy or uncomfortable.
Most music and TV: My choices for tv is the news, after the news it can be turned off for the day till the next round of news. I used to watch shows like Criminal Minds, and NCIS but began to just hear them as noise. Why do we not go listen to nature, listen to the silence any more? why is there noise 24/7? we don’t even recognize the noises any more.
To that point many people cannot discern a bird by its call. Nor can they tell the difference between the trees other than by leaf shape. I would love to go back to a time where everyone was outside, living off the land, and actually knowing the land again, it’s noisy enough out there you just have to listen for it.
Gendered pronouns/Gender separation for things that are non-medical: This drives me bonkers. Why do we have to distinguish between people. I understand for medical forms where genetics may play a role in certain issues (prostate cancer vs ovarian cancer for example) but for general every day conversation they do not need to be segregated. We have perfectly good general terms of they, their, and theirs, works for everyone! Now, this does not mean I will not respect my friend’s choices of which pronoun to use, I will honour my friends to the ends of the earth. However, I don’t understand why they have been segregated in the first place. We are all just children of the Earth Mother, residing with the Spirits of Nature upon her. Why do we have to delineate ourselves and make groups within our species?
All in all, I don’t really understand much of society any more. Can I just win the lottery and go buy a farm?